I came to Carmen because my wife "wanted me to" or in other words, I had no choice. I went because I had to, I didn't quite understand what I needed to do there. Like most guys, I am busy with work, yes my wife was always saying how I needed to free up to spend more time with the family, but I have to make things happen at work to support our lifestyle.  As far as I was concerned everything was good.

Obviously, my wife didn't think so and after much "convincing" I found myself at Carmen's clinic.  I was quite skeptical, after all, she isn't a psychologist or the like, and so what was she going to do for me?  Besides who was she to tell me how to live my life.

Well, I was soon to find out how wrong I was, and how happy I am today to have been so wrong.

From the get go, she started breaking me down in ways no one had ever done before.  She explained to me about my childhood and how I felt because of it, things I had forgotten about.  She showed me in no uncertain terms that my perspective on life is exactly, but exactly, what my father's perspective was and how much that had hurt me not just as a child but till this day (it is the main thing I complain about with regard to him today). 

I came to realize that what I had thought was what I wanted; wasn't.  I realized that as much as I love my job and doing it well I was not just missing out on my kids' childhood but was creating the same exact reality for me and them as I had with my dad (again not a good thing).  I realized that if I want my kids to resent me later on I could keep doing things as I had been doing them, but if I wanted something else (and deep down I always knew I did) then I would have to make a change.

But I'm 40 how am I going to make that big of a change?

Once again I was surprised by how easy Carmen made it.  She has developed these incredible tools, some of which sounded funny to me the first time she explained them, which make change doable.  It turns out if you work on your patterns, everything else falls into place.  I like that, to the point and efficient. 

I started doing my homework every day, yes you get homework at Carmen's.  I admit at first it felt a bit silly but soon enough the results spoke for themselves.

So what is the conclusion of all this; today I am happier with my wife than ever before, we get along and things happen almost effortlessly and when they don't the arguments are much more logical and end much quicker with smiles.  More importantly, my relationship with my kids has become something I could only dream of in the past.  Just the other day when my daughter woke up from a bad dream I went in and spoke to her and explained to her that she has power over her dreams; her response, "then I'll dream about you daddy and how much I love you".

Need I say more?